It’s sad what happened to Vendetta, but the sexual abused didn’t create all the problems, it was Charles and Taylor enabling Vendetta instead of getting her help that caused the problems. Not even threat of law gets Vendetta to act correctly. I sent over 100 messages to Vendetta to see our daughter. She blocked and ignored over ~100 of them. Over the course of 6 months, I saw my daughter for a total of 4 hours; although, I drove a combined 40 hours from Atlanta to Charleston for the privilege. In 12 months, I saw Lauren for a total of 17 hours although I drove over 60 hours for the privilege. Even after we signed a custody agreement, I saw her only after a week of emails between the attorneys for Vendetta to finally follow the agreement and let me see Lauren. Vendetta even told her friends that I abandoned the family when they asked why I hadn’t been visible on Facebook. That couldn’t be farther from the truth.
“A [borderline] mother can be insanely jealous of her daughter, many not be able tolerate displays of affection between her daughter and husband, and may accuse the father of incest.”
Here is the account of my efforts to see Lauren and how they were blocked by Vendetta and Charles:
“July 19: Lauren is completely unavailable, per Charles . Helping Vendetta with her wedding show. Taylor is unavailable, per Charles’s instructions to not allow Taylor to meet with me on the first meeting.
July 20: Lauren is completely unavailable, per Charles . Helping Vendetta with her wedding show. Taylor is unavailable, per Charles’s instructions to not allow Taylor to meet with me on the first meeting.
July 22 (Tuesday): Provided one hr at 10:15 to 11:15.
July 26: Lauren is completely unavailable, per Charles . Lauren and Vendetta will be with “visiting friends for the weekend. This was planned several days ago.”
July 27: Lauren is completely unavailable, per Charles . Lauren and Vendetta will be with “visiting friends for the weekend. This was planned several days ago.”
Aug 2: Lauren is completely unavailable, per Charles . Vendetta & Lauren and my approved substitute are doing a wedding in New York next weekend.” Source: Charles blocking access to Lauren Next Weekend – July 25, 2014.png
Aug 3: Lauren is completely unavailable, per Charles . Vendetta & Lauren and my approved substitute are doing a wedding in New York next weekend.” Source: Charles blocking access to Lauren Next Weekend – July 25, 2014.png
Aug 9: Family is coming to town. No word back from Charles about access to Lauren.
Aug 10: Family is coming to town. No word back from Charles about access to Lauren.
Aug 11: Family is coming to town. No word back from Charles about access to Lauren.
Eventually, Vendetta just breaks out contract. This is what I wrote when she restricted me to one hour of contact with Lauren even though I was granted, in writing, unrestricted access:
After months of trying to see Lauren, multiple letters to Vendetta and her family, this is what Vendetta wrote back to my mother on Christmas Eve. She was obviously trying to ruin her Christmas, but Peter and I deleted the letter from her account and told my Mom it would just get her upset:
Vendetta <Vendetta.s.@gmail.com> 6:59 PM (12 hours ago)
Diego and Glades,
Since I seem to be getting emails from both of you regarding Christmas visitation, I thought it best to reply in one joint email. As for all of the other comments made towards me, I will not be responding to those.
I received an email from Diego the week of Thanksgiving asking a general request for Lauren to come to Jacksonville and spend it with your family. I stated at that time that there was not enough notice, that Diego had not been visiting and that it truly was just not feasible. Glades, I even stated that if you wanted to arrange something for Christmas to please “send me your proposal for arrangements at Christmas time and we can discuss it from there.”
I received communication through the attorneys on December 3rd that Diego wanted Lauren to spend her first Christmas in Jacksonville. Diego’s attorney was told by my attorney at that time that a lengthy out of state trip would be out of the question since there had been no visitation in months by Diego, but that we would be willing to discuss alternative proposals. I can only assume that this information would have been communicated to Diego. There was never a follow up proposal.
There seems to be no consideration for the fact that this would place Lauren in a strange place for an extended period of time with people who are at this time strangers to her. I understand that distance makes visitation in Charleston difficult, but Lauren’s best interest and comfort level really should be paramount here. The only request I ever get for visitations are one line general requests for multi-day, out of state trips, that I am sorry to be say, but I feel are only being asked so that a record can be kept. These factors considered, I have to do what I feel to be in the best interest of my daughter and I will not be sending her Jacksonville for Christmas. Please let me know if you would like to make the trip up to Charleston to visit with Lauren and I would be happy to work something out with you so that you can begin to build a relationship with her. It is truly my hope for us all to have a better relationship in the future.
After a year of trying to see Lauren, Vendetta continued to block my attempts. Here is a documentation of her denials for no reason:
The most disappointing part of Vendetta’s behavior was how her parents condoned it. I have to believe that they tried to stop Vendetta from being so mean, but they didn’t go far enough. My mother even chastised them for not standing up to their daughter. My mother called them out for their un-Christian values and how they needed to look in the mirror and really question their actions.