Vendetta and my relationship was going so badly, that I had no option, but to seek therapy for us. During an argument, Vendetta told me that we needed counseling. I’m sure she didn’t think I would be so excited to hear those words, so I said “great, how soon can we go?”
During our entire time dating, Vendetta said she was open to going to marriage counseling. Now that marriage counseling was an obvious way to fix a lot of what had gone wrong, she refused. She refused so many times that I had no choice, but to have her friends get involved to convince her to go to counseling. I phoned a number of people, including her family, to gently push her to seek help either by herself of with me. When I begged she refused. Even her employees thought counseling was the only way forward. One time I actually got Vendetta to go to counseling. I begged her a hundred times and that persisted for months. I already went four or five times to show Vendetta that it wasn’t harmful, but Vendetta just refused on the grounds that the counselor wasn’t a Christian. Truthfully, it was just a convenient way to avoid counseling. That morning I got her to go and the counselor had a scheduling conflict at the time. For the 1 min that Vendetta met the counselor, her anger was apparent that the counselor was scared and said that Vendetta was extraordinarily angry and she couldn’t understand why.
I can only speculate that Vendetta thought counseling was going to find out the truth about her. I was trying to save our marriage, not get her diagnosed. 1