Just weeks after Vendetta found out she was pregnant, her whole attitude changed for the worse. She was mean every day and especially the last day before I was to finally to start my dream career. This really hurt my ability to focus and reputation at work, but I fought through the drama and negativity. [ref]Psychological Analysis: People, not just those with borderline personality disorder, often resist change. A marriage, pregnancy, and new home are a lot of changes for anyone, especially a person with untreated BPD. I can only imagine the mixed messages you were getting. A person with BPD often does not see grey or the in between. Things are either black or white, good or bad. Sounds like during this time you felt her perception of you was most times bad. That would make the start of a marriage very difficult.[/ref] While away, Vendetta accused me of abandoning her and acting mean whenever I tried to help the problem. One time she called my office and had the secretary and my boss scurrying to find me so Vendetta could ask about our medical insurance. I couldn’t understand her urgency, but the constant phone calls were putting undue stress on me, who at the time was living out of a suit case in a friend’s converted porch. It wasn’t ideal for anyone, but things didn’t have to be this way. Only thing that made her happy was when I worked on her company. She was mean all other times. When I finished some graphic, email, analysis, etc. she was so thankful and happy. When I cooked her dinner or took her on a date, she was miserable and ungrateful. The attitude divergence was stark.
I remember one time that I was leaving Charleston to come to Atlanta for work. Vendetta’s parents arrived at the house right when I was leaving. I waved to them as our cars passed, but they never waved back even though we made eye contact. This was the beginning of what I discovered to be an orchestrated strategy to destroy my reputation.
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